Question about Prostate Massage
Hi, MH family! I have heard a bit about men receiving pleasure from prostate stimulation, and I’d like to learn more. Some have said it’s the male G-spot. Do any of you couples experiment with this? How do you do it? If I ever get married, I’d like to have a basic knowledge about it so I can perhaps pleasure my husband. Thanks for any information!
Have just started with a vibrating prostate massager that is remote-controlled; i.e., my wife has the controller. Used a couple of times so far when she is giving head, and oh my goodness. Its hard to decide what to concentrate on, what she is doing or what the massager is doing. Easy to insert and adds another fun element to sex. Well worth exploring, and if guys can get over the fact that it involves their anus, which was created by by the Almighty, then the benefits are a waiting reward.
I do every now and then, when the wife's out. I grab the bottle of maple syrup in or out of the shower. I slowly take my finger and insert it my ass. But thats for warm-up. Next I grab the finger vibrator and glide in deeper until I'm up against my prostate, then turn it on while I'm stroking with my left hand. I leave the vibrator inserted so I can alternate hands. It's great! Totally erect. Within minutes, I'm cumming. Afterward, I remove the vibrator, and my hole is totally wet. A light coat of white is left on the vibe. My opinion: it helps my bedroom stamina. But when I'm with her, I let her stroke…
As a man, this is probably something I need to learn more about myself haha. Often times when I’m masturbating I do enjoy massaging the area right under my balls. Basically the taint area. I’ll typically have my fingers there while my thumb is pressing down on the base of my cock to provide a firm grip and add pressure to both my taint and the base of my cock. And if I don’t want to make a mess with my cum, I’ll also keep pressure with my fingers there to keep me from shooting my load when I cum. I can then pee it out later. Kind of a weird trick, but I read about it somewhere, and ever since, it’s come in very handy if I don’t want to make a big mess with my load.
That's interesting. I didn't know a guy could hold his semen in during orgasm.
Yeah I didn’t know for a long time either! There were many times in the past where it could’ve come in handy 😂 Sometimes it’s inconvenient to shoot cum everywhere and make a mess. It took some practice to get the pressure and grip right, but now I can literally orgasm without releasing anything. It has a different sensation, and it doesn’t feel quite as intense as firing hot ropes of cum from my cock, but it is still an enjoyable orgasm.
Are you talking about edging and then having a 'ruined orgasm"? That's when you get super close and clamp down with your kegels allowing some load to come out while not having a full blown orgasm.
If you don't want to make a mess with your load have you ever tried licking it up? That is much more common than you realize.
I have an Aneros massager similar to the one pictured that I like to use when we fuck. It seriously enhances my pleasure when I climax, and she loves to insert it for me when I’m hard, just before we begin. And that’s all I’ve got to say about that (wink wink nudge nudge).
Sounds very intriguing! All the input helps me understand guys better. Is it painful to insert? Do you have to warm up first?
@LovelyLonelyLady
It's not painful at all to insert because we use a light lube and, as far as warming it up first, if that’s what you mean by “…warm up first,” no, my Aneros massager does not need warmed up before either I or my bride insert it before sex.
If you mean to ask if I have to be warmed up first, well, no, not really, because I’m quite used to using it! However, sometimes my bride likes to warm me up first with her finger or a different toy before she inserts it just before she fellates me, or we fuck. You see, unlike many anal toys, the design of the Aneros makes it possible for me to pleasurably squeeze my muscles tight during sex without “squirting” it out, even when I cum.
Additionally, we both shower and clean ourselves thoroughly when we plan to make love, so there is freedom to play as we wish with no mess to deal with, and I will add that we simply don’t do any "heavy-duty" anal play unless we have cleaned ourselves first! Of course, a shower together as we clean is terrific, and often orgasmic, foreplay in of itself.
I applaud your curiosity in this subject! You have to find a man that's open to exploring this, but thankfully that's becoming more prevalent over time! Expanding on what Bighuged has said:
The theory behind male multiple orgasms (MMO) is that since ejaculation and orgasm (as biological processes) are two separate things, a man should be able to train himself to orgasm without reaching the ejaculation state, and then it is easy to have one after another without the refractory period and sense of tiredness that comes with ejaculation. Easy in theory but difficult in practice–I've only gotten there successfully a few times myself, and it's maybe not that necessary for a guy in his 20s, but once he's 50 or 60+, I'm sure it's a boon to master these techniques. One of the ways you *can* learn this is through prostate massage, which is how I'm trying to learn myself.
If you're interested in husband&wife aspects, there's a wonderful book called The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, it's definitely written with couples in mind.
Also considering that the pic on this topic is an Aneros prostate massager, I'd encourage you (or anyone else) to check out the forum on the Aneros website which has posts going back nearly 20 years, lots of discussions and encouragement/help about how to achieve prostate orgasms and MMO. There's also a wonderful section called "Aneros Women and Couples' Corner" which should be self-explanatory; the couples that have detailed their experiences there are not all married but a lot of them are. I post there, but I'm single, and honestly it would be great to have some Christian couples share their (true life and unexaggerated) Aneros/prostate massage experiences there. I'd love to see more of a Godly influence in that place! There have been stories on there as well of women achieving orgasms primarily through anal stimulation, and Aneros does make several toys marketed as unisex, so who knows, you might find more there to your benefit than you'd originally think!
Hmm, I may take you up on that! Resources are welcomed, and I am of course interested in experimenting with new things for myself.
Please do! There used to be some wonderful women who posted on the forum there and for whatever reason they are few and far between these days, so we could use some fresh blood! And feel free to hit me up if/when you do come over. I'll go ahead and answer the other question you've asked, as I'm sure everyone has different reactions. I started with things that really don't belong in anyone's ass so I suppose I was training myself early, and "training" yourself is something that does come into play. The Aneros pictured above (Helix) doesn't hurt; of course you need to use the proper amount of lube! The Helix is billed as a beginner/intermediate model, and I've found it to be a good all-around design if a man only wants one. The girthier models like the Progasm are a bit more difficult for me: it usually takes a bit of warmup and a lot of the time. I don't feel like I can relax enough to get the movement that the toy needs to work. Then there are even bigger toys like the Lelo Hugo which is almost too much for me, if I'm not going slow, it can hurt when it stretches my hole. And as far as anal goes, if it hurts then you should stop & reassess because it's not supposed to hurt.
I was rereading this post and wanted to know if you still contribute to the Aneros forum. If so, we could connect there.
@LovelyLonelyLady I'm a single straight male in my mid 20s and I can confirm prostate stimulation is soooooo gooood. Anal masturbation at least for me is the most fun as opposed to just stroking off. Ever since a young teenager I naturally just loved taking it up the butt. My favorite thing to do when I was really young would be filming myself riding a toy and slapping my own ass… I loved to watch it later and masturbate to the view of my ass.
But yes, I've certainly noticed when I ejaculate while having something like a prostate toy up my ass, the orgasms are way more intense and the amount of spurting hot cum is like three times as much. I still love filming my butt stuff to this day, haha. I enjoy butt plugs and anal beads as well, theyre so much fun to plop back in and out and feel the momentary stretch. Prostate massagers are also uniquely fun cause of that deep angled curvature, so most of the time when playing with it I love feeling it slide in and out.
Lemme know if you're more curious and would like to hear more. I'm gonna be making a few review posts about my toys on sextechunwrapped in the anal toys discussion to give more clarity
Ilovefemdom, I definitely want to learn more. I haven't gotten to the point of trying any anal play myself, but I want to gain more knowledge so I could give that pleasure to my future husband.
@LovelyLonelyLady For sure, I recommend the anal toys section on sextechunwrapped, I also am contributing reviews of toys there… Learning and exploring is the best part!
LLL I am both here and there, but have been distracted by other things recently. I read more than I comment.
…but I should add that I'm currently making an effort to be as easy as I can to find over there. However considering that it is mostly (all?) men there perhaps your current name might give guys over there the wrong idea and that a change might be in order…?
My wish is to open conversations with guys from MH because they have positive sexual views, and I want that in a husband. So, I'd love to just talk and build relationships and friendships and see if God leads any of them further. I'll look for you on Aneros!
MH admins I want to thank you for allowing this exchange, navigating what is and isn't acceptable to post on your site can be a bit difficult sometimes and I think that both LLL & myself have wanted to honor that by erring on the side of caution. The story continues in private (for now), but I will say that LLL is as beautiful on the outside as we can all see she is on the inside. She has had amazing trials which has really built up her faith and brought her closer God, and she's taught me a lot just in the year that I've been posting here. Whatever ultimately comes of this exchange I believe that God is using our deeper connection to enrich and improve both of our lives.
I also hope that the example that we've set can be successfully followed by other Godly single Christians in the future. Part of the story is here: https://marriageheat.com/2024/09/22/married-with-no-children/#comment-64831
One of the things that I might comment about is how stressful and anxiety-inducing it can sometimes be to leave yourself open to rejection, and I pray that your actions are guided & informed not only by the Holy Spirit but by wise counsel, as LLL's were.
I'm sorry if that was too much please delete.
I have a couple, one much like the picture. It feels nice to relax in bed with it in, but I have never had an orgasm from it. But it does feel nice.
Here’s an MH account about the pleasure of prostate massage and orgasm.
https://marriageheat.com/2020/11/02/hands-off-ecstacy/
I'm experimenting with a plug. I had a lot of tension in my pelvic floor, so it was hard to insert a plug. With help from a physical therapist specialized in the pelvic floor area, it goes way better now.
I plan to post a story or two about specifics, but, yes, I do enjoy prostate stimulation. Kate LOVES to lick, tongue, finger and play with my asshole, so it's a nice part of our natural routine. Something actually happened over the last year, where our love life exploded, but one drawback was noticeable. Kate learned to deepthroat me like a pro and her blowjobs are better than ever, but it seems to be almost impossible for me to cum from just oral, even though it feels incredible. I love every second of it, but it's one of those things where I can tell it's going to be difficult to climax. However, we usually get around that by having her finger my asshole and stimulate my prostate, something she is completely eager to do, so all is well.
As far as technique, it's similar to G-spot stimulation. Just have the finger facing towards the front of the body and gently stimulate with a "come hither" motion.
LovelyLonelyLady for me as a guy prostate stimulation/prostate massage feels amazing. My wife got me a prostate toy that vibrates and moves like using your finger in a come here motion it has an upwards curve and is about almost 4” inserted. I really enjoy the feeling of it massaging my prostate along with using my wife’s vibrator on my cock frenulum. It’s gives more of a whole body climax. At least for me it does. My wife even inserted it one night and sat on my cock riding me extremely slow and I don’t think I have ever cum so hard.