Entries by tolu

Angry Virgin

Hey guys, I have something I want to get off my chest. My church had a singles night where I was quite shocked at the event. Most of the attendees are in their 20s and 30s and they’ve already had sex. I kind of feel left out, and I feel that it is not fair […]

My Dream Wedding Night

This is a fantasy for my future wife. With the wedding ceremony and reception now over, we head back to the house that we rented for the evening. Tomorrow we’ll drive to the next state over for our honeymoon. As a couple in our mid-thirties, we decided it would be wiser to save for a […]

Help Me Find Hope

Hello, MH friends. For those of you who don’t know, we just had the funeral for my father this past weekend, and it was a good service. Also, I’m preparing for my grandma’s funeral. There are so many emotions running around. All of this death has me thinking about my life. I’ve been really close […]

Angry and Confused

Thoughts in my mind: Good afternoon everyone I hope you’re having a nice day. Part of me feels a little bit lonely because I really do not have a wife to share this special day (Valentine’s Day). I’ve also never had a girlfriend or been kissed. I’m over 30. Honestly, as a black man, I […]

Promiscuous Past

Hello, everyone. I have a question. A male friend of mine, who is in his late-20s/early-30s, recently got his first girlfriend. They have been dating for a couple of years now, and he was considering marriage. The thing is that he confided in our guys’ group that she has had a promiscuous past. He found […]

Manosphere Question

Good day, MHers. I want to ask if you think that recent online groups such as the red pill movement, Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW), etc. (a.k.a. the manosphere) help or hurt men and marriage? How do their views compare to traditional Christian values and gender roles?  

Does “Body Count” Matter?

Hello, everyone. I’ve been struggling with how to phrase this, but I wanted to find out if, among my Christian peers, has a high “body count” prior to marriage mattered in your relationship. Honestly, I am both confused and saddened by society’s answer. I know that men see it as good to have slept with […]

Is it Worth it?

  Dear MH, Is it wrong that part of me doesn’t want to be married? Honestly, I feel like there is a high chance of a sexless marriage and divorce. I am reading books like “the great sex rescue.” Honestly, these books are great, but I am just more  confused about women and marriage sexuality […]

Am I Wrong? Advice Needed

I feel that in dating and courtship that the man gets mixed messages. From my experiences, it is hard and emotionally draining. The church has only told me to pursue a woman’s heart. I have tried that, but it has either led to dissatisfaction on my part or them thinking that I am a creep. […]

Boss Wife – fiction

{This is just a fantasy.} Do you ever have one of those days where your boss busts your chops? Yeah, me too! Now just imagine if your boss was your wife! I have been married to my beautiful wife for about 5 years. We both work at an IT firm. She is the Vice-president and […]

The mask I wear

Hi, everyone. This is my first post. I have been Marriage Heat stories for years. It has really opened my eyes to Christian Sexuality in marriage. My only regret is that I cannot tell anyone about this. I feel so alone. I have always been a man who avoid relationships because of the negative stereotypes […]